Retirement – the reality!
For many years, sport psychologists have referred to retirement from sport as a ‘transition’. However, Nesti and Littlewood (2010) argue that the term ‘transition’ suggests that such an event is smooth and easy to negotiate. Although there will be cases where this is in fact true, in reality, the experience of retirement is more often than not very difficult to come to terms with for an athlete. It is for this reason that the term ‘critical moment’ is preferred, as it suggests that change can often be rapid, traumatic, personal, can be described in positive or negative terms and may involve anxiety and new levels of self-awareness (Nesti & Littlewood, 2010).
Is retirement the same for everyone?
In my experience there are 3 categories of retirement in professional sport.
Each experience of retirement will differ depending on an individual athlete; however it can be argued that athletes who fall into the first two categories may struggle the most in adjusting to their new lives once they leave their sport.
“They say an athlete dies twice. They die when they finish competing and then they die when they die.”
For many professional athletes, their sport takes priority over almost everything from a very young age; their social lives, dietary choices, sleeping patterns, how they conduct themselves, when they take holidays, where they can be seen, when they can use social media, lifestyle choices etc. Their sporting career governs many of the choices that they make, the recognition that they receive from the media and the general public, their income, their daily routine and consequently how they view themselves as individuals i.e. their identity.
When an athlete retires, all of the above changes. They no longer have the intense training schedules, the buzz of competing in a stadium full of thousands of supporters on a weekly basis and their daily routine will no longer revolve around preparation and performance. Many lose the most important part of their life and the biggest part of who they are. They now become faced with the challenge of creating a new life for themselves post sport. For many retired athletes, life without sport is a grieving process and then a rebuilding process.
It is during these times that former athletes are most likely to experience feelings of depression, anxiety and loss while they embark on a journey towards re-discovering themselves, who they are as individuals, what the next chapter in their life will hold and constructing a brand new identity.
Indeed in professional football, it can be argued that a crucial factor in the difficulties associated with life after sport is the lack of education that the players’ have to fall back on. Many of these players’ have no alternative careers planned and many have not even considered a ‘plan B’. When the time comes to retire, it can be a very difficult period in the lives of these young men as they struggle to adjust to ‘regular’ civilian life away from the spotlight, the glitz and glamour of the sport and the high performance environment that they were so used to.
It’s not just the performance side of the game that will be missed. It’s the camaraderie, the dressing room banter, the tours away with the team, the routine and the time spent preparing for performance. An understanding of this experience in its entirety is needed from practitioners, clubs, professional sporting bodies and also from those closest to these ex-professional athletes i.e. family, friends and spouses’.
It is vital that athletes have the adequate support structures in place to help them to mentally and emotionally prepare for and navigate through this ‘critical moment’ in their lives. We need to remember that athletes aren’t special people; they are people with special talents.
“Unlike most, a ball player must confront two deaths. First, when he perishes as an athlete. Although he looks trim and feels vigorous and retains coordination, his exceptional reflexes pass on. At a point when many of his classmates are newly confident and rising in other fields, he finds that he can no longer hit a very good fastball or catch a player four strides to his right….He is experiencing the truth of finality. As his career is ending, all things will end. However he sprang, he was always earthbound. Mortality embraces him. The golden age has passed in a moment. So will all things. So will all moments. Memento mori.” – Sport Proverb